FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions about how divorce mediation works, what to expect, and whether it's right for your situation.
What is divorce mediation?
Divorce mediation is a collaborative process where a neutral mediator helps you and your spouse work through the terms of your separation — property division, parenting plans, support, and other decisions — together, rather than having a judge decide for you.
How much does mediation cost?
I offer a sliding pay scale to make mediation accessible, and the initial consultation is free. The total cost depends on the complexity of your situation and the number of sessions needed. Because mediation is typically far less expensive than litigation, most couples find it significantly more affordable. Contact me at cai@phillipsjonesmediation.com or 1 914-222-0424 to discuss specifics.
What happens in a mediation session?
We sit down together (in person or virtually) and work through the issues that need to be resolved. I facilitate the conversation, walk you through the necessary decisions, and keep things as productive as possible. You and your spouse make the decisions — I don't impose outcomes. Sessions are typically 1–2 hours, and most couples need several sessions to work through everything.
Is mediation confidential?
Yes. I am obligated to protect your confidentiality throughout the process and after; confidentiality, as it applies to you, may be a topic of discussion if desired by both parties. This is one of the key advantages over litigation, where court proceedings are a matter of public record. Confidentiality encourages open and honest dialogue, which leads to better outcomes. An exception to confidentiality: court filings are typically a matter of public record if and when filing is required by the divorce process.
Do I need a lawyer if I'm doing mediation?
I do not provide legal advice or represent either party. I encourage each party to have their agreement reviewed by independent counsel before signing. Mediation and legal advice serve different purposes — mediation helps you reach an agreement, and a lawyer can help you understand your rights and obligations before you commit to one. An attorney may be required for the final filing.
Do you offer virtual sessions?
Yes, in fact virtual sessions are generally preferred. Virtual sessions use secure video conferencing and are available to clients throughout Westchester, New York and surrounding areas. In person sessions may be available with sufficient scheduling time.
How long does mediation take?
It varies. Some couples resolve everything in a few quick sessions; others need more time. Typically, an agreement is reached on all the substantive matters, and put into a separation agreement before the divorce is made final; some months later, this agreement may be revised, or the divorce may be "finalized" in the form of legal divorce filings. The timeline depends on the complexity of your situation and how quickly we can work through the necessary topics. Because you set the pace, mediation is often faster than litigation.
What if we can't agree on everything?
Mediation is voluntary, and you're never required to reach an agreement. If we get stuck on a particular issue, we can table it and come back to it later. You only sign an agreement when you're ready. If mediation doesn't resolve everything, you can still pursue other options: mediation doesn't prevent you from going to court if needed.
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